Have you ever been disappointed or annoyed with someone you follow on social media? Or have you ever been the victim of a wall stalker who always seems to know the latest news in your life? If you’ve been on social media long enough, chances are you have experienced some form of awkwardness on both ends; as a followee (being followed by others) and as a follower (following others).
Here are the 5 expectations of both the follower and followee on social media.
What the followee (person being followed) expects on social media….
1. Don’t send me good morning messages every day for 365 days a year if I don’t know you
How annoying is this! Ok, let me clarify. I like nice, polite people. You are hard to find. But if you want to talk to me, make an effort to get to know me. If you’re afraid I will not like you as a person for some reason, that’s fine. You could say hello every once in a while, just please don’t do it every single day!
2. I trust you are a real person and not fake
Calling all catfish, those who stuff things in certain places to make it seem like you’re well endowed somewhere you are not (both men and women), and those who use things like FaceApp to change who you really are.
Stop. It. Right. Now.
3. If I say I am going to be somewhere, it’s not an invitation for you to show up unexpectedly, acting like you’ve been there for hours
It’s one thing for celebrities to post an event online asking people to come out. It is an entirely different thing if I say I will be out with friends or running errands in a GENERAL area (checking in), and bumping into a follower I barely know.
Most people like a reasonable amount of privacy when doing everyday things.
4. When I share content, I would like some genuine feedback (hopefully positive)
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and agreeing to disagree is fine. Keep it respectful, and don’t assume based on facts you don’t have. If you don’t have anything nice to say, MUM’S the word.
5. Don’t just stalk my timeline, let me know you’re there
Have any of you ever added someone who never comments, never likes, and never reaches out? They just sit there being passive and keep stalking your wall. Yeah…don’t do that.
What the follower (following someone) expects…
1. Entertain me!
If people don’t know you personally but are willing to follow you, it’s because they were drawn to something you do well. It could be your looks, or some extraordinary talent like mastering the five finger fillet. What ever you did to bait the follower, keep it up if you want the admiration to continue.
2. Acknowledge and appreciate my follow
We all like to be acknowledged, especially if the approval comes from someone we admire. It could be a personalized message, or even a general message of thanks to all followers. Small kind gestures can make all the difference in a world full of people desperate for follows and attention.
3. If I like your content, (picture, rant, video etc.) it doesn’t mean I want to bear your children
This goes out to all the men out there (some ladies too). If I like something of yours, please don’t read too much into it. You have a few moments to enjoy that little boost to your ego. After that, keep it moving and have a nice day thank you!
4. I don’t necessarily want to see every waking moment of your life documented on social media
This is kind of touchy. A person has every right to post what they please on their account.
For instance, I could post a video of me squeezing into a dress 2 sizes too small, but I’m sure most of you would want to rinse your eyes out with bleach if I did, the rest would laugh hysterically.
How much is too much? When in doubt, leave it out!
5. Good or bad, once you post, it’s out there for all to see
I understand there are plenty of trolls out there itching to tear down their next victim. But true followers would never do or say anything very nasty.
They are people just like you and deserve to be respected. Posting anything too offensive might turn your followers off causing them to leave and never come back. Once the damage is done, it cannot be undone.
So there you have it, the top 5 expectations from both sides after following or being followed on social media. Can you relate, or did I miss a few points? What are some of your worst experiences with following and being followed on social media?